8 Reasons Why A Real Man Will Never Cheat On Someone He truly Loves.

I came across this interesting article on Facebook which I initially wanted to 'share' but exited the page because I just had so much to say but I didn't want to offend people ( Fb being so public) with my nasty comments, so I brought it here instead! 

8 Reasons Why A Real Man Will Never Cheat On Someone He Truly Loves.

So many boys, so few real men.

I’m rather pissed off at all you stupid boys, parading about like actual men. In fact, you recently cost me a potentially promising relationship. Because you’ve managed to cheat on so many women and break their trust, there seem to be very few women left who are willing to trust another man.

I have never before cheated on a woman in my life, nor will I ever do so. Unfortunately, very few women seem to believe me. I’m sure I’m not the only man who has come across a similar problem.

I’m certain that plenty of great guys have had to carry the baggage some other douchebag left behind. When you break a woman’s trust, you will never get it back. I really mean never. Sadly, you’re also ruining it for the next guy.

By cheating on a woman, you are screwing her over for the long run – she’ll likely be unable to trust another man for years to follow. Real men don’t cheat. Here’s why:

Real men are emotionally stable.

We usually hear about women having trouble controlling their emotions. Truth be told, men are much worse. While women have the intelligence to share their feelings and discuss their problems (most of the time), men like to keep it bottled up.

Until, of course, they can’t take it any longer and explode. When something goes wrong in a relationship, women may very well cry, they may complain, they may throw tantrums or give you the silent treatment, but men – weak men – pretend like they feel nothing.

Once their cup flows over, they look for whatever release they can. They drink. They smoke. They f*ck. Unfortunately, since they aren’t on talking terms with their woman, they f*ck whatever they can find. Real men deal with their emotions appropriately.

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Real men have enough willpower to keep it in their pants.

I’m sorry to have to tell you this gentlemen, but because you are men you are going to want to sleep with every beautiful woman who crosses your path. Literally, every single one.

If you’re a real man, however, you won’t risk screwing up what you have for a brief few minutes in the sack with a woman you more than likely won’t have chemistry with. If you really want sex that badly then why not sleep with the woman who loves you?

If the sex bores you, then do something to make it more exciting. It takes two to tango – if she won’t bring the whipped cream then it’s up to you to do so.

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Real men don’t date women they don’t love or don’t believe they can one day love.

Obviously, we all date people we aren’t yet certain we will fall for — if love at first sight exists, it’s rarely the case. However, many will date someone they don’t especially care about simply for convenience.

Why go out to find tail when you can have it delivered? Real men understand that women aren’t objects and therefore don’t use them simply to satisfy their own needs. When they know they don’t love a woman then they cut things off instead of continuing to lead them on.

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Real men are respectful.

They treat people with respect when respect is due… especially when it comes to the women they’re dating. Cheating is lying; it’s breaking trust and it proves that you care little about your partner as a lover, friend and as a human being.

To cheat is to act as if you’re better than she is and the fact is that you aren’t. Break her trust and you will never really get her back. I had to learn this the hard way.

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Real men don’t need to add notches to their belts simply to make themselves feel like men.

Real men know that they’re real men. They can feel it with every step they take – and more often than not it shows. It shows in their demeanor and in their actions. Too many “men” these days believe it’s laudable to sleep with as many women as possible – as if it were some sort of game, and women are collectables of sorts.

Women aren’t objects, and this game that you’re playing is called life. If you get caught cheating and the stakes are high enough then you can ruin your life.

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Real men would never hurt the woman they love.

To be fair, real men would never hurt any woman, but especially not the woman they understand as being an extension of themselves. Real men love and care for themselves as well as those who are closest to them.

If you are lucky enough to have found a woman to love and are luckier still to have her love you back, then do everything in your power to keep her smiling. There is nothing worse in the world than losing a person you love. Mistakes are mistakes… but they aren’t always forgivable.

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Real men know what’s important in life – and it’s not another piece of ass.

Proper men are too busy living the life of their dreams to bother with excess. They are working on attaining all that it is that they want in life, but more importantly still, they understand what it is that they really want.

As men, we often want more than is good for us. Only when we get what we thought we wanted do we come to realize the error of our ways. I will tell you right now that there should only be one woman for you.

That one woman who will love you for your entire life is all that really matters. The rest you won’t even remember.

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Real men have the guts to break up with a woman.

If you plan on cheating on her then you clearly don’t want to be with her. Grow a pair and break things off. You’re clearly going to do it sooner or later.

Rip that bandaid off and get it over with. Be a real man and not a quivering coward. 

" Too many men these days believe it's laudable to sleep with as many women as possible" . This sentence stood out to me most and it was what triggered me to write this post. 

There is a button in every one that you should not push, and for me, when I hear about people with no sense of shame, I will really explode. 

This is so true. It irks me whenever I hear an attached male boasts about his recent encounters as though it is some honorable thing? It is downright gross. I don't know how some males with such low self esteem, started this shit that the more girls you fuck the more ego you have. Seriously?? If I hear about a guy who does such things, I will straight away LOOK DOWN on these people. 

He can be a sexmaniac, I don't give a flying f, but if he goes around showing off to impress other people then he's really a pathetic whore. 

Have some decency, please. 

Guys. There is nothing for your fellow male friends to look up to you about , or for you to feel proud of your achievements. YOU SHOULD BE FUCKING ASHAMED. Not only do I pity your girlfriend because you betrayed her trust and hurt the woman who loves you. I pity you, because you are no different from an animal, you have zero self control and sense of shame. I think even some dogs can behave better than you. Cheating is easy, try something more challenging... like staying faithful. There is nothing wrong with being faithful. If your male friends mock you for not having balls or that you are missing out on all the "fun".... let them, because in the long run, you will already have a family to call your own, while they either they accidentally impregnate and be stuck with a woman they do not love, or they will end up alone in their late 40s because they have already lost the love of their lives while they were pursuing their "fun"...  And surely if they are indecent friends, they will poke fun at you for still fucking the same pussy while they have already tried another 30 or so. But you know what.... you are going to have the last laugh. You are going to experience so much joy in giving life, and growing to love someone so much more than yourself. It is YOU that your indecent friends will envy, and wish to be if they could turn back time. 

While I was showering today, I also thought of something which I couldn't "unthink".

To be fair, surely there are some females who are no different from the males I was cursing about above. And these very females are those who turned all GOOD BOYS BAD! 

I always believe that every one needs their own space. 

And I used to believe that it is ok for couples to club separately.. UNTIL TODAY.

Said female has a loving boyfriend who trusts her to club with her female friends, and trusts her about everything but said female dumped her boyfriend for another boy she met in the club.OMG?

Imagine if you are the boyfriend??? Really nothing to say already lor. You allowed it to happen what.

You can say that there is no point tying the girlfriend to him, because if she has a change of heart, anything can happen anywhere even out of the club right???

But wtf man. It's almost like he gave her the space for her to look for someone to replace him.

Ouch much? 

Brings me back to the point about couples clubbing separately. Why can't they either club together or not at all?? I do not understand what is a "boys/girls night out" at a club that you have to forbid your partner to come along? If none of them brought their girlfriends/boyfriends other than you, so you don't want your partner there, are you trying to say that you are all up to no good that's why your partners can't be there????? 

If it's honestly just talking about guys/ girls stuff then go to a freaking bar where you can hear each other better and talk without screaming, at the same time you can have some truffle fries and pizza? 

Nobody goes to a club or siam tiu for HTHT la please. 

So yah? Why do people even need their own space to club ???? 

Somebody convince me.

Okay, phew verbal diarrhea over. Reading the article was like somewhat pressing on my explosion buttons. Lol. 

Well, to explain why I am so sensitive about this topic, let's just say that it was out of circumstance, plus I had a really bad first relationship, that honestly ruined my ideal kind love and brought me to the bleakest period of my life. My eyes were like taps that couldn't be switched off. I cried during class, during work while serving yogurt, while walking, while playing hockey. I was a goner. I am so glad that I didn't do anything stupid, it was a night mare which I woke up and recovered from. 

Naturally, it is a baggage that I'd bring into my new relationship, because I will never want to go through that stage again. 

Having that said, and looking at the quality of men these days. I am truly happy and thankful for J and what we are today..  If he is under some spell that I unknowingly casted, I hope he will never wake up from it and realise that he can find someone better lol. Haha... I have never been happier or more in love with anybody else besides Joshua.. and of course I hope I am to him, what he has been for me. He has taught me to love by loving, restored my faith through actions and plenty of patience. Every time he hugs me and tells me something heartfelt I just can't help but tear. 

Lol. Should stop treating him like an idol. 

Jokes aside, I really wish we will never get bored of each other, or take each other for granted.

I hope I can blog about many more of our happy adventures for as long as this blog exists,

I love you so much. 

Joshua Tan