One litre of tears,

I am in bliss. If you take things by the surface, I have everything I need, and most of the things I want.
I am lucky, but I am not exactly happy.
I cannot confidently say that I have fully let go of my past because sometimes I still feel the ache, and the anger...
And I'm typing this today, because I no longer want to feel this way.
And also because if I want to give myself to someone else, I don't want to have parts of me trapped in the past.

Not trying to sound like a love expert, because I clearly am not .... But I'm a self proclaimed heartache queen. Been there done that.... Maybe you can ponder over my two cents worth and see if it helps?
That period when I was crying my eyeballs out, I searched and read so many blogs to find people to relate to and how they got through it. It was very tough , I know!!! But aiyah. Time heals all wounds, if you're hurting now you won't believe me, but i guarantee you, you will get better!

Mitch Albom wrote,

"In order to move on, you have to understand why you felt the way you did, and why you no longer need to feel that way. "

Some are unable to let go because of

1) Guilt.
- probably didn't do enough for their lover / took their lover for granted. If you fall into this category, you long for a chance to compensate and make it up to them. You want to be given the chance to shower them with more love.
Solution : Meet someone new. Ultimately, you just want a chance to love someone (anyone for the matter )  better.


2) Comfort
- if you fall into this category, one reason could be that you've been in a relationship for a very very long time, and can't imagine seeing yourself with someone else, or your partner with someone else other than you.
Another reason could also be because of the circumstances that you are in, which makes you highly dependent or reliable on yr partner.
Another reason could be that you have some awful habit / dark secret which you don't think anyone else ( other than yr current partner ) can accept.
Solution : Snap out of it. Stop dragging!! The longer you drag the worse it gets. BELIEVE ME. You can feel as comfortable with someone else if you dare to give yourself a chance to try. You don't have to search, the right person will waltz into your life~~~


3) The what-could-have beens.
Your relationship was stable in the beginning and there was a lovely future you both build together. How many kids, what names, which area or estate you wanna live in, where to hold yr honeymoon, how much money you have to save before you can get married... I would think that this is the most painful of all break ups. Being the realist that I am, I will NEVER plan anything with my boyfriend ever. When guys tell you they want to marry you, please just listen, smile, nod, and empty that thought from your brain. Because if you believe in all these nonsense, these will be the root of your heartaches when you break up in future.... Please do yourself a favour and not pin too much hope in anyone. People change.
Solution: No serious planning for the future please. If he is genuine he probably would have this all planned out for the both of you.. aiyah if you've been tgt for 8 years then of cos you can start planning.. but if you plan when you've been tgt for like.. 6 months?Please la  -.-

4) Stuck in the past.
I think this one very poor thing la. How do you know when it's over? You'll know when you're more in love with yr memories then the person standing in front of you. Very sad I know... I only have one advice for you. Accept the fact that people change.... and i always tell my friends this. If this was the guy you had met, you wouldn't even fall in love with him in the first place. A person who is only temporarily nice to you cannot and won't be nice to you when you're old and sick. Think about it.


5) Being replaced/ " that could have been me"
You probably don't have the intention of getting back with yr ex, but you definitely wish that you were given the same treatment when you guys were tgt. Self blaming is inevitable.....
Solution: focus on what you have now!! Your life is probably much more colorful now, so try not to look back into the past. You wanted to get out there for a reason, remember that.


I don't think people can't move on because they love someone. Love is a very... hard to grasp. I don't think there's such a thing as romantic love. Give it a few years, everyone eventually gets over it.. jaded much huh?

It's been 8 months.. How time flies.
I am now fully ready to close this chapter of my life and move on to the next.
Really don't want to let my past dictate my future anymore..
Hope al you broken hearted people can pick yourself up too, gambatte!