3 Types of Undatetable Men

1. Asshole

Selfish, but upfront. The “asshole” is the guy who crushes your hopes right from the get-go. He drops a “I don’t do commitment” or a “I just got our of something heavy” or a “don’t take this seriously” before pillow talk. He lets you know that he is seeing other girls.

When he takes you out to dinner, he says, “Oh, last time I came here with Susie, they gave me the same table!” Or perhaps, he is more subtle. He talks about how he thinks the two of you are at an age when you need to “explore” and “meet lots of people,” or just “focus on yourselves for a bit.”

You get the idea.

In any case, he is playing the field. Either that or in love with his Xbox. You know it, he knows it. He’s either juggling you with a bunch of other dates or he would never meet your parents over chilling with his buddies. And he’d tell you that. He has the requisite amount of arrogance to pull it off too.

2. Douchebag

Selfish and sly. The “douchebag” is the “asshole” without the integrity. He is too insecure or compromised to let you know he is only after your ass. He uses lines from romcoms. He is “not like other guys.” He make plans to see you and then changes them last minute. He has a story about his dead grandmother that he tells to gain sympathy.

It’s a nauseating.

He has no intention of ever being serious, but he wants you to think he’ll whisk you away anyway. Maybe he thinks you wouldn’t want to just hook up with him. Maybe he has a sick need to give love and then take it away. It’s likely that he enjoys the idea of winning the prize of your heart, but like the oversized Tweetie Bird at the fair, your four-chambered organ is so much less appealing once won.

3. Nice-guys-but

Ah. This guy presents the worst of dilemmas. His intentions are oh-so-pure, but his actions are less than lovely. He cancels plans. You guys constantly have long talks about “what’s going wrong.” From the bottom of his heart, he wants to treat a girl well, but…for some reason he’s failing you. He says he likes you a lot…but there’s this issue he has and he wishes he could change it, but for now, can you live with uncertainty?

Maybe, he prioritizes med school in a way that precludes going on dates. Maybe, he is in love with a lesbian who will never return his affections. (You kind of look like her, but not enough.) Maybe, he is struggling with depression and would rather never get out of bed than make his way to yours. So he apologizes, he shrugs, he ruffles his hair and looks adorable, the two of you make out, and afterwards, you cry yourself to sleep.

The “Nice-Guy-But” is tricky because he’s honest, but he’s still feeding you hope. Which means he really is the worst. The fact is that he likes you, but not enough to supersede whatever else is going on. 

Came across this article today and thought it was quite interesting ! Life has been quite ok recently. It's finally Wednesday! The battery in me is 1/2 gone already. Wednesdays are my shit days. I usually start my day with lesson at 815 to 645pm then I'll go for tuition from 730pm to 930pm! Had my first meal of the day at 10 pm so sad. :( But on a lighter note, there isn't school on Thursdays hehe so it's not that bad! I love the feeling of going to bed without having to set my alarm. Love love love. Also feeling quite motivated in school even though I really am lost all the time... Really feel myself becoming a better person in this sense... hope i don't lose this motivation. Super miss Hanwei too... she has been in Korea since Friday. :( Don't know what to do without her in my life. 

Have been feeling quite hollow recently too.. Imagine something you've been wanting to get for a long time but couldn't bring yourself to because it's very pricey..  And then you finally convinced yourself of every reason to get it. The addition to your life will make you so happy it is going to be so worth it! Anyway, if you don't like it anymore you can always re sell it, at least you had it once.... You excitedly enter the shop with cash all ready to make purchase and finally own it. Only to realise that the item just got sold out.  You felt you were just played a prank on. You called up every shop only to realise it is out of stock. Sigh. But because you really want it so badly, your search for that item continues. One day, you received a call saying that there is one last piece left, you burst with happiness and you rushed down to buy it. So sure that it is going to be yours finally, and all your efforts in securing the item have been paid off. You hapily arrived at the shop aain all ready to purchase it, but just when you were about to pay for it, another salesperson quickly rushed over and informed you that they made a mistake and the item had already been reserved by someone else. Do you know what I'm saying? This constant appetite whetting shit, that leads to greater disappointment.....? The feeling of being so close to something yet you can't get it. Yet you can't be sure if it'll be another false alarm. The next time you receive a piece of good news, you start doubting it's credibility... just so that you wouldn't be all happy over nothing. And you'll just stop wanting to purchase it one day because you realised even if you have it, it'll always be in the closet anyway. Do you know what i'm saying?  Should really stop reading this Thought Catalog , it doesn't give me a slight chance to be positive at all damn it. 

Collected my specs today!! Damn sad because it's not the one i wanted but i needed it urgently, so beggars can't be choosers right? Sigh pie. 

Weekends are here soon, hang in there friends.